Out of the blue.

Nothing makes me more suspicious of people than them coming out of the blue and wanting to get in touch with you.

I don't understand why that happens.

This trend is more prevalent in women than it is in men.

I don't know how it works with most people out there, but the way I work is, if I stop talking to you, and I don't see as much of you as I used to, then there's probably a good reason for it. And it may not be just one reason, there could be a plethora of them.

It could be, that since graduating high school/primary school/university, we've all seem to have grown up, and moved on with our lives. People, just naturally tend to do that. As this happens, it means that the time we spend on ourselves takes away from time spent with others. Sometimes this is a bad thing, sometimes this is a good thing, and sometimes, people don't even seem to give it much thought.

It could be that over the years, interests and motivations differ and the friendship isn't what it once was.

Or it could be because one party really annoys the other and no one can really stand each other.

If there's one thing that gets my goat, it's these girls that I haven't heard from in over ten years coming out from obscurity wanting to either have dinner with me, invite me to their hens night, wedding or some bullshit reunion.

But what I would like to know is what's going through the mind of the girl who's calling me up in the first place?

"Hey V, let's have dinner, it's been ages."

That's the sort of line that I would expect from one of my best friends who I haven't seen in 3 weeks.

Instead, it's from someone I haven't seen in 15 years! I mean, help me out here. Am I the only who thinks that this is all a tad fucked up?

"Hey V, it's been a while, come to my wedding, I'd really like you there."

When I went to this particular girl's wedding, I fucking regretted being there the moment I set foot at the reception. It was the biggest pile of horseshit I could have stepped in. Everyone who was there had not spoken to this girl in 12 years, and nobody even knew the groom on the bride's side, nobody knew the bride on the groom's side.

And then the penny drops: "Shit, I'm here just to purely make up numbers."

As if that wasn't bad enough, I had to deal with this champagne buzzed bride asking me "Did you ever think I'd get married? Is David the sort of guy that you'd picture me marrying?"

Which lead me to reply: "To be honest, I haven't thought of you since highschool because I've been busy WITH MY OWN LIFE!"

I don't understand.

Someone out there please help me out!

If you're a person who is like this, please, enlighten me with your justification of this insesent pestering.

What do you honestly think we could possibly discuss over dinner!? What! WHAT!

Seriously, honestly and sincerely, I would love to know.

So, you know, I'm waiting.